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Strengthen Your Relationship: Validating Vulnerability

American psychologist Dr. John Gottman wrote that many couples encounter challenges in their relationship because they are often not taught to maintain and strengthen their emotional bonds in their relationships with others.

While facing relational trouble is upsetting, there are steps you can take toward strengthening and repairing your emotional connection with your spouse.

As a marriage and family therapist with over twenty-five years of experience in my own practice, as well as numerous years of personal experience, join me in this article series for five practical ways to build resilience in your relationship.


Empathetic validation is a critical step in resolving relational conflict. By validating your significant other, you are demonstrating that you unconditionally care for them.

Validation communicates that your partner is valued, and that understanding them is a priority for you.

Instead of offering unwanted advice or immediate solutions, validation is recognizing and accepting your partner’s deepest thoughts, feelings, and experiences within a safe space. Listening to your significant other is an act of connection and validation.

Demonstrate gratitude for your partner’s vulnerability. It is difficult to be open and honest about our feelings, even with the ones we love the most!

Occasions to validate your partner increase resiliency and connection in your relationship.

Counseling helps couples get through challenging times in their relationship.

As a therapist, I work with couples in a way that enables them to feel safe and comfortable. We will work through what is troubling you in your relationship. Be it lack of communication, anger, resentment or trust issues, we will work through the details.

Together we can restore harmony, understanding, and love to your relationship. If your relationship could benefit from counseling, please reach out.


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If you would like to talk about an area of your life you are struggling with, let me know. We can easily schedule a short 15-minute chat to explore how I might support you.

You do not have to struggle alone. I am here to help.

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