Judith Zucker, LCSW
Life With The Corona Cloud | All The Losses
Last week I wrote to you about the myriad of feelings we are experiencing as Covid--19 continues to keep our company.
Today, I want to start with a THANK YOU. I would like to thank each of you who are health care workers; in the hospitals, our first responders, and those who are helping loved ones at home. The devotion to your patients is exceptional and showing our appreciation, as we try to, seems immeasurable compared to what you are doing.
Loss of Income
As we move into the fourth week of staying at home some of us have accepted the temporary new reality and some are facing problems that could not have been foreseen. For the latter, the level of anxiety increases as time passes. All the "tools" suggested by the therapists and doctors probably don't help when your income has stopped. It is a frightening place to be. It raises stress levels for the whole family. I hope you are appealing to your employers and applying for the various state and federal loans, etc.
Loss of Loved Ones
If you have lost a loved one to the virus, I send my deepest condolences. If you were unable to say 'I love you' or 'good bye' to your loved one, have faith in knowing they knew they were loved by you.
Loss of Rituals
The loss of traditional rituals, regardless of religion, is an added void resulting in a sense of feeling incomplete. Dealing with the details of that loss over Zoom or FaceTime, or text, or ... is not the same as feeling the warmth of arms of those who are sharing your loss.
To those of you who are struggling, I send my compassion and my warmth.
What You CAN Count On
You will be able to count on your resilience. There are resources, be they personal or public that you will be able to count on. Watching television and reading through the posts on the various platforms gives us a chance to see the ingenuity of so many people. Each of you have ingenuity too.
It may take time to find it, but we all have our own strength and we are our own resource.
If you need support or help, simply reach out. I am here for you.
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If you would like to talk about an area of your life you are struggling with, let me know. We can easily schedule a short 15-minute chat to explore how I might support you.
You do not have to struggle alone. I am here to help.